Sunday, April 3, 2016
Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and the division it can bring...
With Autism Awareness month comes a lot of posts about acceptance. I find that like the autism spectrum itself, the range of "acceptance" is vast and can divide even parents of people with autism. I make no secret that I use biomedical interventions for my son, along with therapies and homeschooling, to help him achieve his maximum potential. There are also many parents that do not put their children in therapies, change their diets, etc because "they love their children as they are" and "Accept that autism is a part of them".
I think it's a matter of a double standard. Not to generalize, but many of the parents I've known that say "accept your child as is, don't FIX them" are parents of children that speak, feed themselves, and probably have a pretty good shot at living independent lives someday. My child is not there (yet), and I love him unconditionally, but I'm also going to make sure he has the best and easiest life possible. That doesn't make me "unaccepting" of my son. That makes me like any other parent that wants my child to be a self-sufficient grown-up.
Bottom line, we are all doing our best, and we all love our children. It's not a contest and we all have our way of encouraging and loving our kids, spectrum or not.